Today is mine and Neil’s one year wedding anniversary!
If you came in late to this blog, we actually have two. Before we got married, I hadn’t had health insurance in 4 years. I wasn’t able to go to the dentist or just get regular annual exams because the cost was too prohibitive. To be honest, I also wasn’t making my health as big of a priority, so the years went by without any medical care.
Once I got into recovery and started making an amends to my body for the way I had treated (or mistreated) it, I realized that I wanted to get my basic exams out of the way so that I could make sure that I had a clean bill of health. Right before I lost my job and my health insurance, I had gotten some questionable results and never followed up on them, so now my overactive and often irrational imagination made up all sorts of deadly plagues that now afflicted me. (Don’t worry, I was fine).
Neil and I were already engaged by this point, but our wedding was being planned for the end of October. We decided that since we were going to get married anyway, we would just make it official in July and I could get health insurance. I went through all kinds of emotions because we were doing things in a nontraditional way and I was worried about what other people would think. You can read about how I got over that in this post if you are interested.
We went to the courthouse, had some vows, then had some delicious food. Everything worked out really well because our ceremony and reception in October had about 300 people and this was a way for just the two of us to take the time to commit to each other in a simple way. Our relationship is the two of us and that’s what we wanted when we actually made it official. Today is actually our dating anniversary as well, so it all worked out quite nicely.
The past year has been filled with ups and downs, but I wouldn’t change any of it. Since we lived together for 2 years before getting married, I didn’t expect the first year of marriage to be any different. It does seem to be true what they say though, that the first year of marriage is the toughest. (Well I can’t attest to future years, but you know what I mean). I can’t tell you why and I don’t know what changes when you marry someone, but there have been challenges to work through that weren’t there before. Today I am happy for challenges, though, because they help us grow as a couple and as individuals. If you can talk about everything, you can get through anything.
Tonight we are going to have dinner at the same restaurant as last year and make it a thing. I hope everyone has a great day!!