Sometimes You Just Need A Reset

I love to overwhelm myself to the point of inactivity. I have so many ideas going on at one time and since I never know where to start, the obvious recourse is to be still. This can be bad and this can be good.

On one hand, staying still just reminds me of everything that I am not doing and compounds my sense of urgency, but on the other it gives me a moment to breathe. If I actually take that moment and step back to look at the big picture, I can see that things are not as bad as I am making them and that all I need to do is tackle one thing at a time.

Monday was one of those overwhelming days. I had lofty goals, but without taking the time to write them down (a must for me), I just circled through them again and again in my head. I stared at the clock and panicked as the minutes ticked by. I don’t know why I didn’t make a to-do list that day, but I know what happens when I don’t–nothing.

I did manage to get some errands done: I worked out in the morning, did last week’s laundry, made a fresh batch of almond butter, and cleaned the stove top with copious amounts of baking soda because the internet told me that it would remove the rings around the burners (partially true). You know, all the essential things that need to get done in order to grow my personal training clientele, get more writing published, a blog post written, and gain some traction on a couple other goals I have.

I texted my friend Tayler pictures of my sunburn. It’s not terrible anymore, but my shoulder still stings. Then I photobombed myself.

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When I couldn’t decide what to start on first, I decided to straighten things up. Maybe a little cleaning would help spur me into action. My desk isn’t too bad, but I didn’t like the pile of papers under the notepad designated for my manic scribbles. Or the dust.

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I tend to clean when I am uncomfortable. If you ever come to my house and everything is in order, there may be a problem. That is, unless it is your first time to my humble abode, in which case everything will be immaculate so that you can think this is how I normally live (it’s a farce!).

The tidying of my desk did help, but failed the all-or-none law and didn’t depolarize my -70mV threshold. Too nerdy? It wasn’t enough to get me moving. So rather than continue to worry myself I decided to read. I read until dinner, finished one book, then started another. Then I slept. The day went by without any great achievements or huge opportunities.

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I bought these all last month and only have 1.5 left to finish. I may have a problem.

I think I expect every day to be the most successful day ever. It can be, but I have to reshape my expectations. I am not going to have incredible breakthroughs every single day. I am not going to go from 0 clients to a full schedule in one day. These things take time and it is the baby steps along the way that add up to the successes later on. It’s the unglamorous work of emails and phone calls, marketing myself, and taking action that will help me reach those goals. In retrospect, Monday was a successful day because I learned from it and can write about it.

SO

What I realized is that Monday was my reset. When life gets overwhelming, sometimes you need to be still. Give yourself permission to take it easy if you need to; your gut will tell you if that’s what you need. For me, I needed to sit, do mundane tasks, and read (never stop reading!) in order to bring me back to my senses. That, and sleep. Sleep is a great reboot for what ails you.

Here are some suggestions for “reset activities” when you feel overwhelmed:

  • sleep
  • read
  • exercise
  • journal
  • listen to music
  • play music
  • have a dance party
  • meditate
  • spend time on your favorite hobby
  • clean (if you’re a weirdo like me)
  • call a friend
  • text a friend (if talking on the phone fills you with terror)
  • take a walk (you may just be able to find a view like this one):

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Questions:

  • What does your reset look like?
  • Do you make to-do lists?
  • What are you doing today?
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23 Comments

  1. June 24, 2015 / 5:33 am

    I’d say, your reset day was fairly productive– with the reading and cleaning. I’m looking at a stack of books that I will probably never read cover to cover. I tend to buy a bunch and then chapter hop through each daily– a little here, a little there. I may have a problem. 😉
    Also, I find cleaning to be cathartic. It gives me a sense of accomplishment–even when I’m actually procrastinating!
    Thanks for sharing.

    • erinsinsidejob
      June 25, 2015 / 4:43 pm

      Thanks for reading! I always put off cleaning but then when I do it I feel great!

  2. June 24, 2015 / 5:44 am

    I think that I reset by doing anything OTHER than what is going on, or what is enabling my inaction. I have to put a block to the behavior. Sometimes that means a nap, sometimes that means a get up and do things. I had to reset on Friday when I called my mom. And our lunches tend to help 😀
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    • erinsinsidejob
      June 25, 2015 / 4:43 pm

      I concur with all of this.

  3. June 24, 2015 / 6:10 am

    I definitely reset. Honestly, my whole life for the past (nearly) 4 months has been a bit of a reset. However, it seems like some things are finally coming together. We need reset days and time to clear our heads and whatnot. It really can’t be all go go go. I’m similar that I clean when I’m uneasy or worried — I can so relate. I need your reading discipline. I had a goal of five books this month and I’ll be lucky if I finish one!
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    • erinsinsidejob
      June 25, 2015 / 4:42 pm

      It definitely looks like things are coming together for you!

  4. June 24, 2015 / 10:51 am

    i’m totally with you on all of this, especially just jumping careers and now working for myself essentially. i expected everything to just happen for me right away. LOL. so yes i totally feel you! i am very similar, reading this post made me feel like i was in my own brain 🙂 it wasn’t that scary actually, you’re a great writer and make me sound good in my own brain… so thank you!
    when i need a reset, i definitely like to meditate. i love hanging on my inversion table. yes, i know it may sound hokie but it feels good on my back and just makes me feel good. also i love a good bath or long luxurious shower. a nice walk in the park helps, too. it’s the little things. and yes, cleaning always sets me straight!
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    • erinsinsidejob
      June 25, 2015 / 4:42 pm

      That inversion table sounds sweet. I need to get better about meditating…maybe I’ll actually practice sometime.

    • erinsinsidejob
      June 25, 2015 / 4:35 pm

      Awesome! Let me know what you think! She’s my new BFF.

  5. June 24, 2015 / 8:05 pm

    I can relate to your thoughts in this post so, so much. I should have had a reset day yesterday. Instead I made myself try and push through, and to be honest, it didn’t work. I felt more stressed than I originally did. Thanks for the reminder that everyone has days like this and it’s totally normal to not be 100% productive and amazing every single day.
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    • erinsinsidejob
      June 25, 2015 / 4:35 pm

      You’re welcome! I think I need that reminder more often than not!

    • erinsinsidejob
      June 25, 2015 / 4:41 pm

      Don’t we all!!

  6. June 25, 2015 / 12:03 am

    I definitely have to make to-do lists or I will just end up scrolling through social media and get absolutely nothing done. When I need a reset I will usually go for a walk, but I definitely need to have some more dance parties!
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    • erinsinsidejob
      June 25, 2015 / 4:41 pm

      They’re the best!

  7. June 25, 2015 / 12:34 am

    I have yet to read a Stephen King book because I’m super sensitive and get all anxious about stuff. Does he have any books that won’t keep me awake all night? Which one would you recommend?
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    • erinsinsidejob
      June 25, 2015 / 4:41 pm

      Truthfully I’ve only read the horror ones but I have a pretty high tolerance for that stuff in writing. I just finished his book “On Writing” that I really loved (check out tomorrow’s post about it for more)

    • erinsinsidejob
      June 29, 2015 / 3:38 pm

      Haha. I always leave it until later and then clean everything in a frenzy

  8. June 26, 2015 / 5:17 pm

    I want to read The Gifts of Imperfection! Resetting is always good 🙂 when I feel overwhelmed I lack the ability to prioritize, too. It doesn’t feel good because I have that list of things to do (that aren’t organized into a list) and it’s all swarming around in my brain!
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    • erinsinsidejob
      June 29, 2015 / 3:41 pm

      Read it! They’re all great.

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