I’m not really one to set goals for the new year, much less write an entire post about them. The weeks leading up to January 1st are usually full of posts from people recapping and proclaiming both old and new goals as the year turns over. I love that people are reevaluating what is working and what’s not in their lives, but honestly I tend to skim those posts since personal goals are just that—personal.
I do take some time to think about the past year and what I would like to do differently, but I don’t really sit down and list specific goals. The span of an entire year is a long time for me, so when I do think of a goal, I try to break it down into a smaller time increment so that I’m able to get it done more effectively. If I give myself a year, I’m going to procrastinate like it’s my job.
In the spirit of making lists and setting goals for this new year, however, I decided to jot down a couple things that I’m aiming NOT to do as the year plays out. Let’s think of it as my anti-goals list for 2016.
1. Settle for less than I deserve
For some reason, thinking that I deserved to be respected in both a personal and work environment didn’t come naturally to me until about a year ago. I was unable to set boundaries in both arenas of my life and I spent far too much time people-pleasing to take care of myself.
This left me feeling resentful and worn out. This year I will work on not letting myself be taken advantage of and I will understand my own worth to myself and others around me.
2. Force myself to choose an exercise I don’t love
I ran three half marathons in 2015. By the third one I didn’t know why I was doing it (aside from a free race entry) and when I was done I felt burned out from running. I’ve done small distances in my current workouts, but I haven’t gone out exclusively for a run since that race was finished. I wanted to run because I loved it so much for a number of years, but I think right now we need to take a little break.
Exercise isn’t just about forcing yourself to get out there and sweat it out, it’s about finding what type of exercise works best for YOU. You need to enjoy it and that’s why this year I’m going to rely more on the feedback from my body in deciding what workouts I do.
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3. Ignore my feelings
I’m a master of compartmentalizing and diverting my feelings. Over time I’ve been able to figure out what and when I am feeling, but there are still times when life gets crazy and I don’t even realize I am pushing them away.
This year I’m working on not ignoring my feelings and paying attention to those physical reactions I have when a new feeling comes up.
4. Let fear control my life
My biggest obstacle is probably fear. For some reason I can conquer the fear associated with bigger things easier than the smaller ones. Fear for me usually means that I am stepping outside of my comfort zone and am on my way to something great.
I want to find more courage in the face of fear this year. Especially in the small things.
5. Lose sight of what’s important to me
This blog is important to me. Health and wellness are important to me. Making a difference is important to me. It’s easy for me to get so focused on the details of day to day life that I forget about the larger picture. I can get so focused on how much money I need to make or crossing off daily to-do lists that I lose sight of why I do all of these things in the first place.
This year I don’t want to lose that and will find a way to keep the bigger picture just as visible.
6. Forget that vegetables make me feel great
Generally, I eat pretty well. I have frequent green smoothies, dinners of baked chicken and veggies, and other healthy options. Then there are days where I explore the city and try finding the best donuts and cookies. I eat way too much mac ‘n cheese pizza. It’s all about balance, but sometimes the scale gets tipped one way for a bit too long.
I’m not saying I won’t still enjoy all the delicious food this city has to offer (otherwise what would go on my Instagram?), I’m saying that I won’t FORGET that vegetables make me feel great. It’s easy to forget how my body feels after eating clean for awhile, so remembering that by jotting down notes to myself or other cues will allow me to make a more educated decision.
- What’s one of your anti-goals for 2016?
- Do you normally stick to your goals?