Let’s Get Legal!
So I promised last night that I would clarify why I’m calling Neil my husband but also talking about planning our wedding for next month.
We were officially married in July at the courthouse because it had been 4 years since I’d had health insurance. Our celebration/ceremony/reception is still set for October. In July it was only the two of us; next month we will be able to share it with all of our friends and family.
It was Neil’s idea to get legally married early. He first brought up the idea months ago but I shot him down because I was worried about what other people would think (so silly). He brought it up again in June and as I mentioned in a previous post, my new found ability to be open-minded and consider other people’s ideas allowed me to listen to his reasoning and not immediately tell him no.
I made a pros and cons list because I wanted to make sure that I was making the right decision for me and not anyone else. I have a habit of people pleasing (sometimes to my detriment), so I wanted to make sure I did this right.
What I realized when I looked at my list was that all my cons were questions and all my pros were statements. The cons were all based on emotion and the pros were practical. My cons also revolved around what everyone else would think.
Yes, that last one was an actual question I wrote down. Like there was some kind of established wedding no-no list that I could not go against. My pros made logical sense: