How Are You Quarantining?
Hi friends. I realize that the days of copious comments on blogs seem to have passed, but since we really don’t have many other ways of communicating during this time, I’d love to hear from you about how life is going these days. How’s it treating you? How are you coping?
This week is the first week that I have felt somewhat like myself. I’ve felt a little less fuzzy, a little more upbeat, and like I can do more than watch after my son and play Animal Crossing. I’m still not wearing real clothes (heaven forbid), but I am showering more regularly and trying to wash my hair before it turns into a giant nest that I need to spend 10 minutes painfully brushing out before washing.
I’m going to try and break this up into sections so it’s not one rambling thought pile, so here are the things I’m doing to make this quarantine more bearable.
I’m usually in a good place with understanding myself and my needs, but I know it can be overwhelming to see all kinds of messages about what you should and shouldn’t be doing during these unprecedented times. There are posts on social media telling you to give yourself grace (which doesn’t always work for me), don’t put pressure on yourself, and that any way you’re coping is fine. Then there are opposing posts telling you to maintain routines, make yourself exercise, and keep things as normal as they can be. The same message may be inspiring to one, while overwhelming another. As always, my helpful reminder to take what you need and leave the rest. Take in content, but always reflect and see how is resonates with you. You know yourself best.
For someone who previously exercised an average of five days a week, quarantine has turned me into a once weekly, maybe twice, exerciser. I simply can’t find the motivation and am not always an advocate of forcing myself. As I mentioned at the beginning, I’m feeling a bit more like myself lately, which has led to an increased desire to move my body, which can also likely be attributed to improving weather. Either way, I’ll take it. Since I can’t throw heavy weights around right now, I’m surprisingly finding myself being drawn back to running, something that I took a long hiatus from after burning out several years ago.
It’s been nice. It’s relaxing. It’s free. It’s uncomplicated. It can be meditative, when I’m not plotting my course ahead to avoid unseen potential pathogens carried by others on my path. I hope to continue enjoying it.
I talked with Neil about this the other day and I think my initial exercise plummet at the beginning of all this was likely due to having to make another routine change that I wasn’t ready for. You may remember that when I had to stop bringing Miles to the gym with me and go during times when I could be there alone with him, I was pretty devastated. It was a hard adjustment, and one that I was only starting to more fully accept. Then we were quarantined and I was required to make another routine shift that I just don’t think I was ready to do emotionally. So I put it on the back burner and figured I’d come back to it when I was ready. Maybe the ready is here; we will see how it shakes out.
Right now my current routine is pretty simple:
- wake up with Miles
- spend the morning with our little family
- make my own version of my Starbucks drink (or visit a store if I’m having a tough mental health day)
- put Miles down for a nap
- use nap time to do work, play Animal Crossing, or exercise depending on day/mood
- play with Miles when he wakes up/eat lunch
- put him down for nap two
- work or video games
- play with Miles until bedtime
- hang out with Neil
I base any additional activities on my energy level, which can vary from day to day. OH – and muffins. I’ve been making all the muffins because it’s something to do when Miles is awake and I also discovered he loves them, so I’ve baked more this past month than I have the past year for sure.
So yeah, I’ve been trying to go with the flow which works some days and is harder on others. I think we can all relate.
Miles turns one this Saturday. I can’t believe it. More on that in an upcoming post, but just wanted to throw that out there.
He’s been great through all of this. Obviously, he has no idea what is going on; he just knows that we spend a LOT of time in the bedroom while his dad is on work calls in the living room. We have a finite supply of toys, but he doesn’t seem to mind and is great at independent play.
He’s been pulling himself up and cruising around the furniture for maybe two weeks now. He’s also stood unassisted a couple of times, which has me keeping an eye out for a potential walker in the near future. He has picked up a lot of skills pretty quickly, which I am attributing to all the play time he has had while we’re home. The days of popping him in a stroller for long walks or trips are over, so he’s been able to crawl around and practice his mobility a lot more. Any day now…
He’s really been a great source of joy for me during this time. On tougher days, I may only be able to manage lying on the bed to watch him play and assure he doesn’t kill himself, but that watching makes me happy. Having him crawl over to me makes me happy. Watching him smile and flick me off when I tell him not to play in the plant soil makes me happy. He’s a real lifesaver.
Neil and I had some tense moments at the beginning of quarantine in trying to figure out how to work and coexist in the same space. We made sure to communicate about how to do things and how we were feeling. It’s not perfect, but we seem to have found a routine that works for us.
It’s been good to have him home because then I don’t have to coordinate what to do with the baby when Donut needs a walk or figuring out how to exercise. I’m able to leave for a run when Miles goes down for a nap and Neil is there in case he wakes up or has any problems.
Honestly, we love spending lots of time together and always have. It’s almost better with him working from home now because there isn’t additional transit time at the start and end of the day. We’ve been going for walks around empty parking lots (ha) as a family and watching TV at night. That part is still pretty normal.
Ultimately, as long as we are open in our communication, we can work through any issues that come up. Like my favorite relationship quote: “If you can talk about anything, you can get through everything.”
What have you been doing? How have you been feeling? What helps you feel normal? Do you get to go out in nature?? I miss trees.
Let me know. Hang in there. 🙂