I came up with a great parallel the other day between blogging and relationships. I think it stemmed from my annoyance at a technical issue I had going on, which then prompted me to think about other ways to compare the two. I was actually surprised at the number of similarities I was able to find and humored myself with this post about ways blogging is like a relationship.
Add any other ones you think of in the comments!
1. It takes time to build
Just like any relationship, you start off at square one. You don’t know anything about this person and you have to get to know them to find out if they’re a good fit for you. You learn their likes, dislikes, sense of humor, etc. You don’t (normally) jump into a friendship or a relationship full speed ahead, but take time to develop and nurture those people.
When I started blogging, I had no idea what I was doing. I got a Blogger account since it was pretty straightforward, then went to town. Not too long after that, I decided to switch to WordPress.com, followed by WordPress.org. I have learned a tremendous amount about blogging, social media, and marketing myself as a brand in the 2.5 years I’ve been playing this game. I’ve learned what I like, what I don’t, and what process works best for me in order to get you the best content on a regular basis.
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2. You get in fights
All relationships come with fights: family, friends, and romantic partners. I hate confrontation, but sometimes it’s necessary to stand up for what you believe in or simply to deal with whatever problems you may be working through.
As much as I love blogging, I can’t tell you how many fights we have had. My pictures won’t load, the formatting is messed up, or heaven forbid I wake up to an email letting me know that my site has been down for four hours. Blogging is hard work and sometimes you just need a day (or two) away from it in order to return with a better perspective and renewed enthusiasm.
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3. It’s always there for you
After those fights, true friends and relationships will still be there when you return. In some cases, you may find that they are even stronger than before.
Blogging isn’t going anywhere. It’s up to you when you want to write. Don’t be afraid to come back to it after a hiatus or to scale back on the number of posts you write. Many bloggers are afraid that posting less than five times per week will lose them readers, but if you’re scrambling for content and posting lackluster pieces, those readers will leave anyway. Higher quality in fewer posts will have people eager to read new material even if it isn’t posted as often.
4. Learning to trust and open up
Typically, you don’t spill your life story to everyone you meet. If you do, you may need to work on setting appropriate boundaries. The reason most people don’t immediately open up is because entrusting that information requires a certain level of trust. You need to get to know the other person (#1) and deem whether or not he or she is trustworthy and deserves to know certain information about you.
Let’s talk about that content. When I started blogging, I spoke about my past in a generic and cryptic way. I was working in an office setting and wasn’t sure how it would be received if someone stumbled across my blog. I also wasn’t sure how much I wanted to reveal in general, so I tested the waters by adding in bits and pieces. The reception I got was wonderful and I reached a point where I said screw it and put everything out there. One of the main tenets of Erin’s Inside Job is honesty and transparency, so I had to be willing to trust all of you with what was going on in my life.
While this is an important principle for me and my blog, it may not be for you. Take some time to figure out what your boundaries are personally and in blogging.
5. You have to put in effort
Relationships stagnate if you stop paying attention to them. Friends that I don’t put time into talking to eventually fall by the wayside. My marriage requires constant attention and reflection to make sure that both parties are feeling happy and fulfilled.
Blogging is hard work. Trying to grow a business out of a blog requires even more dedication and attention. To have a successful blog, attention needs to be paid to creating content, scheduling social media, photography, interaction with readers, and so many other things I know I’m forgetting at the moment. On top of the work that goes into publishing a single blog post, the market and the internet are constantly changing, which requires you to stay on top of all the latest information in order to remain current.
I also want to give a big shout out to my mom since it’s her birthday today! Show her some love in the comments! 🙂
- What other ways do you think blogging is like a relationship?