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Tips for Starting a New Life Chapter

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It’s been eight years since I was released from a nine month stint in jail, and nine since I finally put down the drugs and alcohol that put me there. I’ve shared about my addiction many times and even have a whole section dedicated to it, but I haven’t really touched on what was needed to start anew — totally fresh and from the beginning at 27 years old.

I had been on the path to becoming a pharmacist when everything imploded on me. I was in my third year of an education that furthered the only employment I ever held when I was arrested for stealing narcotics from that job. My world became darker before I made the decision to put in the work to fix the life I managed to destroy, and in addition to escalating my drug use and losing my job, I was also expelled from graduate school. 

I spent nine months in jail as a result of my decisions, and upon release I was left with a school I couldn’t attend, a profession I was legally mandated to stay away from, and a shiny new criminal record. Any plans I had for how my life was to turn out quickly vanished and I found myself feeling lost. I needed to find my way again at almost 30 years old.

I’m not going to lie — this was very hard period in my life. It would have been far easier to return to drugs and alcohol in the face of the amount of stress and uncertainty I had, especially because those emotions were ones I would have used to escape from a year earlier. I had to rebuild trust, work on improving myself, and face constant rejection from potential employers who looked only at a background check.

I know I’m not unique in encountering hardship and needing to start over, so I want to share with you some of the things that helped me continue on the path to where I am today.

Take it one day at a time

The thought of starting a whole new life was incredibly daunting. Trying to imagine finding a job, paying back bills that had gone to collections, finding a place to live, and many more was overwhelming. The same way that I approached recovery was how I approached starting this new chapter — one day at a time. 

Don’t focus on forever, just focus on what you can do today to help move you forward. For me, it was applying to a certain number of jobs a day. I called the collection agencies one at a time to find out how to start the process of repayment. I did one thing at a time until slowly life starting coming back together. 

Form connections

One thing that differed in my time post-jail was the amount of people I knew. I attended 12-step meetings daily and let myself be known. I had learned in rehab to ask for help and although it was terrifying, I met so many people that cared about me and wanted nothing but the best for me in recovery. Those new connections were critical in keeping me clean and helping me find a new path in life.

Stay in contact

It’s one thing to meet people and socialize in the moment. It’s another to stay in contact with those people when things get tough. A 12-step meeting or a coffee date is an hour out of the day, and the other 23 can be hard when you’re trying to figure out a new way to live. In order to make it through tough times (and there were plenty), I HAD to reach out. 

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Change your environment

One thing you learn in recovery is to avoid the people, places, and things that made up your using environment. For me, this meant I couldn’t go back to where I grew up or to Baltimore until I was better established in my recovery. I couldn’t stay at home and isolate because that’s how I lived before. I had to use those connections I made and spend as much time with others as I could. I moved in with my sister. By changing things for the better, I was less tempted to revert back to my life before.

Keep moving forward

Any big life change is hard. If you had told me that this is what my life would be almost ten years ago, I don’t think I would have believed it. I learned that progress is never a linear path, so there will be tough times AND great times on the journey to a new life. When the tough times come, it’s tempting to want to give up in lieu of what seems easier, but you have to know that it will get better. As I have emphasized multiple times on here, there’s always a light at the end of the tunnel, but you have to keep walking through it. 

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9 comments on “Tips for Starting a New Life Chapter

  1. Thank you for telling your story Erin, I needed to read this. Six years ago I was expelled from medical school. Which was my be all and end all. I felt like literally everything in my life had been leading up to getting in, and then I lost it. I had nothing, my life was suddenly scary and empty and I had to slowly, patiently re build it into something I could feel proud of again. I completely understand how you would have felt and in case you need to hear it today I am so proud of you!!! For coming out the other side of the tunnel not only in one piece but as a role model, a health icon, a successful businesswoman and a fantastic wife and mother. Six years later I’ve just qualified as a lawyer and at age 30 am about to get my first fulltime job (yay for that student debt…). Thank you again, and here’s to the new lives xx

    1. Omg look at you that’s amazing!! Doctor lawyer you do it all 😂 I’m so proud of you for turning it all around I know it’s not an easy thing to do

  2. Thank you for sharing. I love all of these tips and they are spot on. I’m going to share this with someone who I know needs to hear it. I love a redemption story. Take care

    1. I actually met him in recovery! We initially had a rough start but then were friends for about a year before we starting dating. 🙂

  3. I love how you spoke about building good connections and staying connected to them. Your environment is so important. The most significant to me for staying on the right track (although it’s not so much addiction, just about living the lifestyle I have chosen for myself) is to stay away from negative influences that could lead you down a dark tunnel that you don’t even realize you’re going down until it’s too late. I am more positive and productive when I am around positive and productive people.
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